10 Job Interview Do’s and Dont’s

DO get plenty of rest the night before

It goes without saying that an adequate amount of sleep the night before is crucial to the performance and success of any endeavor. Before your interview be sure to get at least 8 hours of rest. This is your big day, you want to arrive refreshed, sharp and attentive. Furthermore, you would hate for an employer to assume that your constant yawning is due to a sever lack of interest or enthusiasm for the interview or even the job.

 

DON’T forget to come prepared

Arrive on time, in fact arrive 10-15 minutes early. There is a saying my professor used often, “If you’re early you’re on time. If you’re on time you’re late. If you’re late you’re fired.” Along with arriving on time be sure to have all of your necessary documents and utensils such as your CV/Resume, employment application (if needed), letters of recommendation, references, pens, etc. Furthermore, do your research. What do you know about the company, it’s mission, and it’s history? What is the description and specifics of the job you are applying for? What are the salary, pension, and benefit expectations for this position in your region? It’s always good to know what you’re walking into before an interview and especially before a job is offered. utilizing resources such as the company’s website, search engines (i.e Google, Bing, etc), and even inquiring amongst any current employees you may know personally that work for the company are all great ways to get yourself familiar with the company, its employee expectations, and what you can bring to the table.

 

DO dress for the part you want to play and the boss you want to be

Lets face it, an individual’s appearance and personal presentation are very important. According to a 2006 study by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov, It takes just one-tenth of a second for us to judge someone and make a first impression. For this reason alone when going on an interview it is crucial that we put our best foot forward from head to toe.

 

DON’T invite distractions

Headphones, electronics, cellphones and the like are no no’s when going to an interview. Be sure to place all of your devices on silent or turn them off and devote your attention to the task at hand: acing the interview and getting the job.

 

DO remain aware of your body language

Communication is essential to the development and success of any relationship whether it be personal or professional. Many would argue that it is our nonverbal communications though that speak the loudest. A firm handshake, a friendly smile, proper eye contact, your tone of voice, and even  proper posture say just as much as the words you speak. Do remain aware of how you carry yourself and what you’re communicating to the employer with your body language.

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DON’T speak negatively about your previous or current employers

Leaving a previous or current company is much like a break-up. When you begin the process of dating, or in this instance interviewing, with new people and potential partners it’s often a huge red flag when someone goes on bad mouthing their previous spouse, mate or in this case employer. One can’t help but naturally wonder, what part this individual played in the strife? Does he/she lack the ability to accept personal responsibility for their actions?And if they are not a suitable fit what backlash will I face as a result of what this person would say about my company?  Instead of bashing your previous employer find ways to express that there were differences in work culture or growth potential and emphasize that your skills and aspirations more adequately fit and compliment the company to which you are interviewing with.

 

DO ask questions

It’s a delicate dance, knowing the proper questions to ask and not ask on a first interview. Unfortunately, in an attempt to avoid this touchy tango, the most common answer to the question “Now, do you have any questions for me?” Is often, “No.” Sadly, this response reads as passive or as though you have a lack of interest or aspiration for yourself, the position, and the company. However, asking too many questions especially those not necessarily related to the position and/or centered around the, “What’s in it for me?” category are either irrelevant or premature and can either come off as rude, self centered, or that you are uninformed and unprepared for the position to which you are applying. For this reason preparation is key. Be sure to do your research and have 2-3 questions prepared for the interviewer. Questions regarding compensation, salary, vacation time, benefits, etc. should only be asked later on in the interviewing process or addressed only if the employer/interviewer brings them up.

DON’T provide too much personal information

Always be aware not to provide too much personal information. going into excessive detail about your personal hobbies and activities, family life, and experiences not related to the position can become confusing, derail you from the topic of conversation and even create more questions or concerns for the employer. Its best to moderate your answers and conversation keeping it related to the position and the company.

 

DON’T lie

Honesty is always the best policy. Say you lie on your CV or in your interview and you get the job, you might not be educated or adequately skilled for the position, perhaps you lie about your legal past and your discovered during a background check? Not only do you lose your credibility and damage your reputation you even run the risk of being found out and fired.

DO be yourself

At the end of the day YOU are the most unique and valuable commodity. There has never been nor will there ever be another you! Skills, techniques, and trades can be taught but personality and character can not. Do remember to allow the real you shine through because that is your greatest asset!

 

Bonus Do’s and Dont’s

Do follow up your interview with a email or thank you note

Don’t Curse

Do bring along extra CV’s

Don’t exude arrogance

Do relieve stress/nerves before your interview through meditation, prayer, or breathing exercises

Don’t over use perfumes and colognes

Do watch what you consume before your interview (i.e foods, drinks, smoke)

 

3 Steps to Living Your Best Christian Life

“Put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

-Ephesians 4:22-24 ESV

No one ever said this life was going to be easy. In fact Jesus tells us quite the opposite.

I’ve told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply at peace. In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I’ve conquered the world.”

-John 16:33 MSG

Yet the Word of God makes it clear that there is a certain way He has called us to live that not only minimizes the drama and stress of this world (plenty of which we bring about ourselves due to disobedience, reckless living, and sin) but allows us to live our best lives. Here are 3 steps to living your best christian life

1 . Put Off The Old Man – (Remove the tattered Rags)

So you may be wondering what is the old man? Well, the old man is anyone who wears the ways of the world thinking, acting and believing as the world does. His mind is not set on Christ nor the ways of God. He is always seeking his worth, value, riches, satisfaction, and pleasures from the world (Colossians 3:1-3).

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices

-Colossians 3:5-9 ESV

The character of the old man is fueled by his carnal passions. From promiscuity and lies to anger and lust, he gives into whatever he feels whenever he feels like it with no regard to God. However, when we come into the salvation of Christ we give up and surrender these tattered behaviors (taking off the old man). We no longer give in to our old desires that are contrary to the will of God but we strip away our former practices, mindsets, and behaviors.

2. Renew your Mind – (Cleansing)

So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts.

-Ephesians 4:17-18 NIV

Once we have accepted Christ and stripped away our old ways; before we can put on our new selves we must first wash away the residue of our old ways, thoughts and behaviors through the renewal of our minds. We do this by changing the way we think and how we behave by aligning our thoughts with the mind of Christ and our behaviors with the will of God. As believers we are constantly in the process of renewal, in fact,

“The christian life is a (continual) restoration to the image of God” – Dan Mohler

A renewed mind is always receiving new knowledge according to God and no longer according to the thoughts and ways of this world. So, instead of saying, “I can’t!” A renewed mind says, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”(Philippians 4:13) Instead of saying, “That’s impossible!” It says, “Nothing is impossible with God.” (Luke 1:37) Instead of saying, “I’m not worthy enough or good enough.” A renewed mind says, “I have been made the righteousness of God through Jesus Christ.” (2 Corinthians 5:21)

 

3. Put On The New Man

So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.

Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.

Now that you have removed the tattered rags of the old self, renewed your mind and spirit through the cleansing of the word and wisdoms of God, you must now put on the new man by clothing yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, thankfulness, encouragement, constructive instruction to others, and most of all unselfish love; doing everything to the glory of God.

As believers we no longer fit into our old self and our former ways. The new man has no need to go back into the closet of the old man and put back on the ways of the world. While none of us are perfect we strive to continuously be remolded more and more into the likeness of Christ.

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Blogging with a Ministry Mindset

I never used to think of blogging as more than an online diary where you share your thoughts and hope someone along the way likes what you have to say. But after many years of on again off again writing, I’ve learned that blogging is actually a powerful platform and a very useful tool to the body of Christ. I would even dare to go so far as to say that blogging can also a form of ministry too.

Ministry, in essence, is any biblically consistent work or service that benefits others and gives God the glory. When I began to look at my blog and posts as more than just ramblings and journal entries but as a source of demonstrating God’s goodness, sharing my faith, and bringing hope to others, a profound change occurred. As I started to view my blog as a ministry I began to treat it as such. Here are the 5 things I consider when blogging with a ministry mindset.

1: Is blogging my calling?

Each of us is called and designed for a specific purpose and God has equipped us individually to achieve that purpose by giving us various talents and gifts. For me it has always been writing and photography. I could sit for hours in my closet or under my blankets scribbling away. It was only natural that as I grew older, coming up in an age where social media ruled, that I became a blogger. When I decided to start sutanamonae.com I was very prayerful asking God not only for direction but for confirmation it was a part of the calling He had for my life.

2: Blogging from wholeness

I am not perfect, none of us are. There are some areas of my life that still need major work and other areas I am making progress in. Nonetheless when I post I always try to write from a place of healing and wholeness. I don’t claim to have all the answers, I do not give advice on topics I don’t know the answer to or have not overcome and when I fail I do try to be as transparent as one can safely be on such a public and permanent forum. Since I see this blog as a form of ministry I do not use this particular platform to vent negatively, rant unnecessarily or complain. I remember that I am a conduit for christ and this is his forum.

3: I can not give what I have not put in

As a blogger, especially when you are blogging with a ministry mindset, it is crucial to maintain your spiritual health by investing time in the word, private time with God through prayer and meditation and striving to live a life of obedience and holiness. (see 6 Keys to Spiritual Health)

4: Importance of Fellowship and Community

We all need one another in fact we were created for one another. To lean on and learn from. As a blogger I’ve found so much inspiration, encouragement and direction just by reaching out to fellow bloggers and writers in the faith. Like any ministry there are good days and challenging days. Sometimes I feel like I’m in the right niche and others I can feel entirely out of place. During those times there’s nothing like reaching out to a fellow blogger or reading a really good post that makes me recall my purpose and remember why I’ve been called to do what I do. Also, community helps to guide me, advise me, and correct me wherever I may be error.

 

5: Don’t get caught up in the numbers

At the beginning this was reaaallyyy hard for me. I used to base my posts, my blog and sometimes ashamed to say myself on the number of people liked, followed, or shared my blog. That was a killer of esteem and I was always questioning my worth, value, and purpose. The truth of it all was I was more interested in what the people said and less focused and intent on pleasing God and bringing Him glory. Once I started writing from a heart fixed on God and a desire to be obedient to His calling on my life I no longer looked for approval in numbers and likes. Whether  reaches a thousand or whether it only reaches one, it is all to the glory of God and that has made all the difference in the world.

6 Keys to Spiritual Health

I can always tell when I’m starting to get the spiritual sniffles because the evidence of my spiritual health begins to spill over into my day to day life. Symptoms often include a running mouth that finds itself gossiping and complaining. A craving for bad behaviors and unhealthy vices. Lethargy and laziness accompanied by discouragement, distractions and a headache full of lustful thoughts and negative thinking. When I begin to notice symptoms like these I know I have not been maintaining my spiritual health. Listed below are 6 keys to monitoring and maintaining a healthy spiritual life.

 

1. Meet with the Dr. (PRAYER)

Prayer is an essential component to the believers life. It is where we communicate with God by expressing our gratitude, acknowledging God’s goodness, and removing the gunk out of our lives through confession and repentance. Most of all, prayer is our act of worship and obedience to God.

  Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NIV

2. Read the Prescription (BIBLE STUDY & DEVOTIONALS)

The word of God is our sustenance and source of life.

Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God

Matthew 4:4 NIV

It is our hope, our health, our instruction, and within its pages it points to the cure for all mankind, which is Jesus Christ. The Bible is literally the God breathed, God inspired  word from heaven to us; good for use in all things we may be facing, questioning, or going through.

All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.

2 Timothy 3:16 NLT

3. Follow the Doctors Orders (OBEDIENCE)

If we are going to live healthy spiritual and physical lives it is important that we are vigilant and obedient to follow God’s instruction and design for how we should live. Furthermore, we obey God not only because it is the wise and profitable thing to do, we obey out of our love and reverence for who He is.

“If you love me, obey my commandments.

John 14:15 NLT

4. Get Plenty of Exercise (BE A DOER OF THE WORD)

It wouldn’t prove very beneficial or profitable to have a gym membership and a personal trainer yet never lift a weight or heed the trainers counsel and instruction. The same goes for us. When we only read what the bible says yet we never take any action and put to work the principles and wisdoms of the word our spiritual lives only decline and rarely if ever improve.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like.

James 1:22-24 MSG

SIDE NOTE: The promises of God, in many cases require action and obedience. “If you do this…God promises to do that.” Action is required to live whole and healthy spiritual lives. Every day we make decisions that either bring us closer to a fuller more abundant life with God by becoming more and more of the person He created and designed us to be or we drift further and further away from the completed work in us and our true identity. Every day we have to choose to put into practice what we know the Lord has called and commanded of us if we are ever going to live in the fullness He has promised to us.

5. Eat a Healthy Diet (WHAT ARE YOU CONSUMING INTO YOUR HEART, SOUL, AND MIND?)

Every moment of our lives we are constantly consuming information. Especially in a day and age where social media, television, movies, music, news and opinions are at our fingertips 24/7. Its important that we are consciously monitoring the things we are taking into our hearts and minds. From the conversations we choose to engage in to the books we read we should always ask ourselves, “Is this activity, media or substance benefiting and bringing life to myself and others or is it contrary to what I know is acceptable in the sight Of God?”

Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

Philippians 4:8-9 MSG

What we consume becomes a part of who we are, it has the potential to shape our lives and it will be these things that overflow from our hearts through our actions and words that will spill over into the lives of others and those around us.

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

Luke 6:45 NIV

6. Get Plenty of Rest (REST AND WAIT ON THE LORD)

The LORD is good to those who wait for Him, To the person who seeks Him.

Lamentations 3:25 NASB

Lastly, when we are walking in faith we can find rest in knowing that God is on our side, that He is always faithful to those who trust Him. There is no need to be anxious for anything. As believers we are always allowed to pray about a matter but once given to God we are not allowed to worry about it! We rest in the faith knowing that God will always keep his promises. He is waiting on our waiting…

Yet the Lord still waits for you to come to him so he can show you his love; he will conquer you to bless you, just as he said. For the Lord is faithful to his promises. Blessed are all those who wait for him to help them.

Isaiah 30:18 TLB

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28-30 NIV

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On The Shelf January 17′

41a4igwcrgl.jpgResisting Happiness by Matthew Kelly

A true story about why we sabotage ourselves, feel overwhelmed, set aside our dreams, and lack the courage to simply be ourselves… and how to start choosing happiness again!

 

 

 

 

 

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Capture Your Style will empower you to become your own master mobile photographer, whether you’re looking to launch an e-commerce business or simply sharing a gorgeous meal with your friends, turning even the most mundane moment into Instagold. This is a must-have reference for anyone interested in the ins and outs of stylish personal branding.

 

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Rediscover Jesus: An Invitation by Matthew Kelly

How well do you know Jesus? I think about this often, and I always come to the same realization. I don’t know Jesus anywhere near as well as I would like to know him. The desire is there, but life gets in the way. There are times when I seem to be making great progress, and other times when I wonder if I know him at all. But I always arrive back at the same inspiring and haunting idea: If there is one person that we should each get to know in a deeply personal way, it is Jesus – the carpenter from Nazareth, the itinerant preacher, the Son of God, the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, the Lamb of God, the new Adam, the Messiah, the Alpha and the Omega, the Chosen One, the Light of the World, the God-Man who wants good things for us more than we want them for ourselves, the healer of our souls.

 

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People I Want to Punch in the Throat: Competitive Crafters, Drop-Off Despots, and Other Suburban Scourges by Jen Mann

A debut collection of witty, biting essays laced with a surprising warmth, from Jen Mann, the writer behind the popular blog People I Want to Punch in the Throat

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 Inauguration

Well, it is finished. The United States is now celebrating or sobbing for its 45th President Donald Trump. And it almost seems as though the world has gone mad in a sense. There’s nowhere I can go, especially here in NYC, where I don’t hear people complaining, debating, protesting, or rocking back and forth on subway cars muttering “The End Is Near Now!”

To be honest, by the looks of things, if I didn’t know God for myself I’d be looking for the next available bunker and stocking up on cans of vienna sausages and pork and beans. Fortunately for me (and my poor mother whose heart probably can’t take another Sutana antic) I do. And in knowing I have hope, I have security, I have faith and surprisingly to most I actually have peace about the whole thing.

“Gasp! But Sutana, how could you. I mean the man wants to deport immigrants and build a wall at our boarders. And what about health care benefits? Our low-income and impoverished communities like the one you’re living in now? Oh and the arts, my God the arts! Wasnt it the educational funding for music equipment and instruments the very thing that offered you the opportunity to have your very first instrument which in turn made creativity, music, art, words and expression some of the things intertwined into the very fibers that make you you today?”

Cant lie I agree with what you’re saying. In no way do I think its wrong to fight for what you believe in and stand up for what is right. In many ways I am not a supporter of many of the proclaimed changes President Trump intends to make. However, When all of this Trump business started I made up my mind that I was not going to fixate on the “America is the laughing-stock of the world” mantra, nor focus on the chaos, the riots, and the  “why was Kanye there?” of it all. Im going to fix my gaze elsewhere. I am going to look to the real ruler over all things. I my friends am going to look to God.

The bible says:

“Make your motions, cast your votes, but God has the final say.”

     -Proverbs 16:33 MSG

Let us not forget whom is really in control here. Especially as believers. We have no need to fret and fear as the world does.

Call me naive, perhaps I’ve watched one too many Disney movies as a child. If anything though, I’d like to think that at the least I am just a bit more hopeful than most. But here is an idea, and it might be a bit of a shocker: How about we just give the guy a chance and trust God for the rest. After all who knows? Perhaps he will have a massively positive influence and be a vessel to change the world for the better? I can see it now…

Peace in the Middle East, U.S. debt will decrease, and the love for our planet and all mankind will increase….

ooorrrr if not…

Then at least the most we can hope for is that this guy ain’t right.

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4 things I wish every interviewer would know… written by an interviewee

Having been on many interviews in my lifetime and recently having gone on several more, I decided to freshen up on my interviewing skills and do some research on the best interview etiquette and decorum. Yet, I’ve discovered in a few cases that after having put on my very best both aesthetically and mentally I was met by a least than favorable interviewer. So for all the interviewers out there here is my observation and 4 things I wish every interviewer would know when conducting an interview.

1) Have a personality

Whether you are interviewing for an Ad agency, a law firm, an auto mechanic or a cashier at Forever 21 be yourself. Don’t be afraid to have conversation and communicate outside the sheet of paper you check off like a script. I don’t know how many interviews I’ve been on and ended up leaving the interview feeling like, “Wait, who was that? Where am I? And was this position for the Walking Dead because right now I’m so confused” There is definitely a way to be professional and personable without sacrificing the purpose of our meeting.

 

2) Love  your job, brand, organization… or at least like it

Speaking of personality please be somewhat passionate about what it is you do or the brand you represent. Or at least attempt to make me think you sorta care. I’ve gone into a few job interviews feeling a bit on the fence about a position, perhaps because it’s a slightly longer commute, a lower rate of pay or longer hours than I would have normally liked to work but because the interviewer was so passionate, optimistic and sincere about what the position had to offer I  ended up accepting gigs from a few of them. And for the ones I didn’t  or couldn’t accept,  I was confident in referring friends and eligible candidates that would be a good, if not better fit, because the lasting impression was so positive. Conversely, I’ll never forget I went to an interview for a retail position and the manager spent 8 mins going on and on about how horrible the customers were, how terribly long the hours are and that basically she’d sold her soul to the devil. I mean, please be honest,  just don’t be traumatic. Afterall, I don’t wanna leave an interview feeling like I have a Phd in psychiatry. Unless of course you really do have to sell your soul to the devil, in that case, please let me know immediately and move on to point3.

 

3) Be honest. Be real. Nothing is perfect.

Nothing is 100% easy peasy. If it were everyone would do it (or so I hear). Every job or profession has it’s good days, it’s bad days and many days in between. If you deal with rowdy clients quite frequently because of your demographic or the services you provide say so. If often times employees will inevitably have to work many hours overtime, say so. If vacation time during the holidays is not an option, for the love of humanity… say so! Whatever the reality of your industry is, both pro and con say so and say so with honesty and clarity of what you expect from your employees. A new hire is less inclined to walk away when they know what they’re walking into. Actually that goes for any hire probably.

 

4) Listen…like… really listen.

In one of my recent interviews the interviewer would ask me a question, and as soon as I began to answer the question she would look down and start writing. I didn’t think much of it. I figured it was pretty standard routine. You gotta take your notes, no biggie. Next question. I begin to answer then she picked up her phone. “Well perhaps she has an emergency going on,” I thought. Then she giggled, and I was like, “I hope no one died cus thats an awkward response.” Next question. I begin to answer and she cuts me off mid-answer to ask the next question… sighhhh… Long story short, I didn’t take that job.