RL DAY 8: Love is Not Easily Angered


“(Love) does not fly off the handle” 1 Corinthians 13:5 MSG

Anger is not a bad emotion. Anger, like happiness, sorrow, excitement, and elation, is an emotion that God has given us. They are signals of what is right, fair, wrong, unjust, pleasurable, hurtful, good and the list goes on. The problem with man’s anger is when we act or react based on our anger. Anger is a powerful emotion and in its thralls men have been known to do desperate and sinful things outside of themselves, “because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:20 NIV

When one lives a life full angered and constantly frustrated this is not only a sign that the individual is lacking in one or more areas of patience, kindness, goodness, joy or some other underlying area, it also leaves the individual open and more susceptible to the persuasion of the enemy and the temptation to sin. This may be accomplished perhaps by saying harsh and hurtful things. Abusing themselves or others and even worse. This is why it s crucial that we deal with anger quickly and do not harbor anger in our hearts. In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV


Overcoming Anger with Love

  • Pause, slow down

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20 NIV

Before reacting or speaking pause. Take a moment to really hear; hear from others and most importantly hear from God before saying or doing anything, especially out of anger.

  • Seek Wisdom

“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11 NIV

When we consult with wisdom, whether it is through spiritually minded friends, the word of God or through prayer we find relief, understanding, acceptance and even patience. While mans anger can be irrational and unpredictable making little to no sense to anyone but the afflicted, wisdom is right, exercising goodness and looking to the will of God and what would be pleasing in His sight. “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” Proverbs 29:11 NIV

  • Self Examine

“What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.” James 4:1-2 NIV
Someone special once told me, hurting people hurt people and at the root of any negative emotion is hurt. It is good practice to get alone with self and with God and searching yourself for the underlining cause of your anger, rage and frustration. Is it jealousy due to an area of lack in your life? Is it fear of never receiving that promotion? Is it pain from a harsh word spoken to you by a friend? Whatever it is you must get to the source and address the wound so you can begin to heal. Ask God for wisdom, direction, healing and wholeness, after all you have not because you ask not.
  • Choose Love

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 NIV

I can not tell you how often I’ve chosen to show love to someone in the heat of an inflamed moment or someone diffused my pain with a kind word and everyone came out on the other side better for it. Its something about trusting God and choosing love in the face of anger, wrath and disappointment that brings peace, patience and Gods presence to an otherwise perceivably nasty situation.



  1. Are there any areas in your life where hurt has been the underlying cause of your anger?
  2. How do you seek wisdom in times of anger, hurt, disappointment or confusion?
  3. How do you anticipate exercising love the next time you are faced with anger?

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