RL DAY 7: Love is Not Self-Seeking


“(Love) is not self-seeking,” 1 Corinthians 13:5


Credit cards, student loans, the car salesmen, and your dog Skip. What do they all have in common? They are all either giving, extremely kind, overly helpful or mildly entertaining… at a price. Thats kind of what it’s like to be self seeking. Like Skip’s famous “play dead” trick, self-seeking is the inability to do anything for anyone else without an expectation of a return, some sort of benefit, recognition, or at the least a Milkbone. However, love is not like this. Love gives selflessly and without expectations or strings attached. Remember, love puts others before himself, not the other way around.

What is self-seeking

According to http://www.merriam-webster.com self-seeking is defined as being: “concerned only about getting what you want or need and not caring about what happens to other people… seeking only to further one’s own interests” photo-1422728221357-57980993ea99.jpg

Sometimes we do not see ourselves as self seeking when we really are. The only way to know is to search our heart and true intentions behind the things we do. Do we give to charitable organizations or particular projects because we believe in the cause or because it makes a great tax write off? Do we do things for others at the opportune time so people around us can see our acts of valor and think we are a good person or are we as genuine in public as we are in private?

The bible says to do good with selfish motive is to be a hypocrite and ultimately miss out on the true blessings and rewards of God. Matthew 6:2 NLT: “When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do–blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth, they have received all the reward they will ever get.”

Selfish to Selfless

There is no greater example of selfless love than Jesus Christ and no better guide than the word of God which says:

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death,even death on a cross.  Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,” Philippians 2:3-10 ESV

  • Do things from a place of humility

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2 NIV

  • Think of the interests of others as well

“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace:” 1 peter 4:10 ESV

  • Take on the mind of Christ; becoming a servant unto others and obedient to God

“It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave,” Matthew 20:26-27 ESV

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love.” John 15:9-10 NIV

  • Look to God for your reward and satisfaction

“Mercy to the needy is a loan to Godand God pays back those loans in full.” Proverbs 19:17 MSG




  1. Do you do things from a place of humility and sincere kindness towards others or do you do things with an ulterior motive in mind? If so, why or why not?
  2. out of the four ways to go from selfish to selfless what are your strengths? What areas do you struggle with?
  3. Do something kind for someone today without telling them or anyone else.

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